My last relationship:

 The "perfect couple" who couldn't quite get around to co-creating the wonderful relationship that was "on the  table"

 She felt that she didn't receive unconditional love from  me, though I loved her very much, quite   unconditionally...

 This seems to have been based partially in "normal" communication difficulties between the sexes and largely in our unresolved "stuff" .... we were together for almost 4 years, and married 3.. went to several couples counselors, read a few relationship self help  books,
did a lot of loving, a bit of fighting (too much)    <:-(      and a lot of growing.

 This last one (there've been a few :) was the richest relationship of my life.

 My capacity to love and connect intimately have blossomed...

 And the break-up seems to have catalyzed a wonderful growth in both of us :)

(I have GREAT references-  really !  :)

 Studies/books.....

 I'm always attending the school of life.

 Traditional academic stuff... ( yawn )

 I am  VERY INTERESTED in social awareness, and “changin’ times” –

 Alternative health, computer-biz related stuff, sustainable agriculture,
(actually “sustainable” and “alternative”  ANYTHING …are probably of interest  to me)

 Sports.......

 DO NOT like spectator sports generally.

 I won't watch any on the toob, (don't even own one) but might go to one with you  if you  really wanted to .
(I'm flexible, and aim to please <grin> )

 I have played racquetball in the past, and recently tried tennis.

 I enjoy relatively calm-water kayaking on the rivers around here, also in the ocean.

 Places.......

 I grew up in Los Angeles, and lived in the San  Francisco bay area for most of my adult life.

  Spent almost a year in New Orleans in my early hard drinkin' 20's

 One year in San Diego also.

 Have also  visited New York, Chicago, Philadelphia, Honolulu, Seattle, Portland, Phoenix, Houston Vancouver BC, and others- have a secret wish to visit Dharamsala in the Himalayas, and maybe other parts of India – Maybe Thailand and a bit more of Southeast Asia while in the area. Also maybe Wales & Scotland (ancestral homelands )  and  who knows where else?  Hong Kong, & China, Taiwan, Singapore – all of these places and others in the Pacific Rim are possible business/pleasure travel destinations.

 Goals....

 Really a prime goal is a fantastic relationship!

 I see this as one of the most important and valuable things in life!

 Other than that, I've had little trouble doing what I set out to do.

 I am becoming an "alternative" healer, something  I've toyed with for years, and been really serious about for about 6yrs;
I have a persistent daydream about a  multi-disciplinary healing center, possibly with some liive-in facilities
for supervised detox, maybe hospice, or..   ?

 I am looking for someone who wants an intense level of connection in a hopefully life-long relationship.

 Did I say I was a real fun guy?   =:->)

 My email address is  dave@holistiq.com  click hyperlink to write me there please.
-or give me a ring if you like !    (510)776-5914

 warm regards,

 Dave Hartley